I don’t know why I have the good life I have. I look at what I’ve had in my past, and can see times could easily have gone bad for me … My health has been OK for all of my life, really, up until things turned around, from OK to potentially bad.
In 2010, I had a collapse of sorts, feelings of weakness, and a fall, as well as mobility problems, walking, tripping and almost falling, and then actually falling. I was fortunate that my family was there on that first day, and I was able to get the medical help needed.
It’s been a learning curve though, learning to live a good life with MS. Medication, getting over a fear of needles, learning to care for myself, what things I could do, and what I would have to cut back on, or cut out, at times … Much learning from considering the truth of my situation.
I have a good life, no a great life, actually. Good family and friends doing great things, positive things, outstanding things even, at times, working with my own abilities, and with others helping out too. The world is made up of good, bad, and indifferent things. I look to the good things, and work toward removing the bad, as and if I can. Indifferent things are what I am learning to ignore, if they have nothing to do with me.
Stoicism has come into my life, and I am realising that many things that happen don’t actually have anything to do with me, and if I leave them for those who are actually involved in them, not me. Why bring on other people’s problems if it’s not your business?
And in my thoughts about Stoicism, I am realising my natural attitude to life is a rather stoic attitude anyway, before I even truly knew what it was, and where the term came from. Things happen, I deal with them in the best way I can, a way that is good for me, and further, good for others if they are involved too.
Making the world a good place is surely a fine thing to do, and if I can play a part in doing that, woohoo! Having a role in life that takes me above and beyond my chronic illness, so that I don’t dwell on any of the worse parts of my life, but instead thing on and act on the better parts of my life, these things are good for me. They’re probably good for everyone, actually.
If you have a chronic illness, it is only a part of what and who you are, not the whole thing. I realise other people with Multiple Sclerosis are facing a much tougher life than I am, but I’m still of the opinion that thinking only about the bad stuff in life is never going to bring you a better life. Deal with the bad stuff, embrace the good stuff, live, learn, survive, and THRIVE!
If any of this sounds like a good idea to you, leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you! And take a look at my other blog, the Stoic one My Stoic Life, who knows, it may strike some chords with you, the way the ideas did and do with me!